Add to your repertoire of creative therapeutic interventions with this original technique.
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CAUTION: THIS TECHNIQUE IS FOR USE BY MENTAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS WITH SPECIALIZED TRAINING IN CLINICAL WORK WITH CHILDREN AND FAMILIES.
Jeanette Yoffe, MFT
AGE RANGE: Ten and Up
MODALITY: Individual, Group
Explain to the child that he/she is going to create a special bag that will help him/her gain control of angry feelings. Continue to explain that within the bag there will be special skills for him/her to utilize “as a daily practice to release angry/frustrated feelings.” This is not meant to be done when angry. The bag will be used each day so anger does not build and can be expressed safely and appropriately. Below are items for the bag:
Scream Pillow: The Scream pillow is used to help the child express anger verbally. The parent/practitioner can demonstrate first by placing his/her mouth in the middle of the pillow and making a sound of anger i.e. growl like a bear, roar like a lion, or scream as loud as they can all the while encouraging the child to try. As the child begins to feel more comfortable he/she can say words such as “I am angry” or “It’s not fair” or “I am frustrated” or “I'm mad.”
Paper to Rip: An old phone book or a stack of paper stapled together, written on front cover “Paper to Rip.” The child is told this is available for him/her to rip up to release frustration or anger BUT the rule is when finished it must be cleaned up. As the child rips up the paper the parent/practitioner instructs the child to verbalize why he/she feels angry. The child can throw the paper up in the air or directly into a garbage pail. This can be very cathartic and freeing for a child.
Paper to Draw: The child is told the “Paper to Draw” is used to draw pictures about angry feelings with the Anger Buster Crayons. The child can draw pictures of the person and event and/or write words that express his/her anger.
Play-dough Rip-Squish-Spaghetti Technique: The child is instructed to open and take out the play-dough, and say out loud “RIP” while breaking it into 2 pieces. The child is then instructed to say the word “SQUISH” while squeezing his/her feelings into the play-dough, then the child says “SPAGHETTI” while separating his fingers so that the play-dough squishes right through them like spaghetti. Tell the child to begin all over again with Rip-Squish-Spaghetti. He/she should do this 5-10 times until he/she feels more relaxed. Tell the child this activity will help him/her express angry feelings into the play-dough instead of hurting someone else.
Anger Buster Poppers: This technique is always fun, safe and easy to use. The child can use the bubble wrap “poppers” to step on, stand on, sit on or jump on. This allows the child to project his/her aggression and/or hostile feelings in an expressive way. Encourage the child to tell a story about what he/she is doing to the poppers and who the poppers represent.
Anger Buster Bubbles: The child is instructed to sit down on a chair while blowing bubbles. He/she is going to imagine seeing the angry feelings enter the bubble and then disappear when it pops. Encourage the child to focus, feel the lightness of the bubble gliding within their control. Each bubble he/she blows they watch until it pops, so that the child begins to regain focus and internalize a sense of calm.
Anger Buster Cards: Help the child create 3-8 Anger Busters by writing a coping skill on each card. The child is told he/she can reach in the bag and pick an Anger Buster Card and it will tell him/her what to do to safely express angry feelings and get calm. Below are examples of Anger Buster Cards:
1. SCREAM as loud as I can in my SCREAM pillow! Grrrrrrrrr!!!
Caregiver involvement will enhance the effectiveness of this activity. Caregivers can be taught the techniques so they can coach their children. Caregivers should also be encouraged to provide positive reinforcement by praising the child when he/she uses appropriate anger management strategies. Labeled praise statements are most effective, such as: “I like how you used the Scream Pillow to let out your angry feelings and you did a good job using calm words to tell me what made you so angry.”
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
© 2016, Jeanette Yoffe